Before you quit your job to pursue your dreams, please consider this…

I’ve done it- quit a promising corporate job to pursue my dreams, then by second year took a paycut job to be able to pay bills, and finally….. tired of being broke and bullied, decided to go back to corporate. If I am to be scolded, then let it be by a VP who at least know what they are talking about. After 6.5 years, I was able to ‘retire’ to be my mom’s full time caregiver. I would not have been able to do so had I not gone back to corporate. Therefore, I’ve given my dreams a try and realize they are not feasible……. and since I’ve written about all these in the past, I shall not repeat myself again.

Instead, I’ve extracted valuable comments from various viewers of a video that had adviced others to ‘quit their job to pursue their dream, and if the spouse are not on board, then divorce them’. And that friends and colleagues drop off the radar because they are not your real friends and are secretly envious of you.

Well, this is what the comments have to say, a number by those who have done it:

 

@mjl1966y (The Crystal Voice)

From somebody who’s done this: There is a difference between fear of failure and fear of homelessness. When I got five mortgage payments behind, I was no longer focusing my creative energy on writing, I was losing sleep because I was about to lose my house. For a novelist anyway, I think the idea of quitting your day job is really bad advice. I have found it easier to be creative when I don’t have to worry about where my next house payment is coming from. I’ve written six novels, one of them while unemployed and “chasing my dream.” Lemme tell you – financial desperation does not improve your odds. I can still produce 10,000 words a week just fine as somebody who gets a paycheck. And my books still don’t sell. That problem is not solved by adding the anxiety of having no income. .02 from somebody who tried it and lost.

Reply to the comment above:

Excellent point, it’s totally bad advice. It’s actually backwards. First, get financially stable as best as possible and then either cash out or just pursue the so called dream after hours. We all have 24 hours in a day, a lot can be accomplished if one is willing to get uncomfortable and sleep less to work more until either the job or the so called living the dream comes to fulfillment. I’m done struggling financially, I’ll wait, save my money and then live my dream. If I drop dead so be it, at least I dropped dead trying to improve myself.

@mgu1N1n1
Listen up to all of you who want to leave your corporate and stable jobs to pursue what you think is a dream or some passion out there.
I’ve spent my life in the Arts the past 30 years and it has been an absolute brutal beatdown. It verges on daily anxiety and absolute exhaustion at the struggle. Everyday now as I get older I wish I had a stable performing promising decent job.
I have a master’s degree and I’ve traveled the world in pursuit of my dreams but mostly my dreams have broken me.

@simonfernandes6809
The trick is to work on your dream while still doing the day job. When the dream starts to take off THEN you quit the day job.

@chriss2352
Careful. The grass is not always greener. Once your dream becomes a job it can become a nightmare. Maybe try it out as a side hustle before going all in.

@loganspenser1591
Quit my job. Got worried about money. Applied to some 9-5 jobs. Got an offer for 90k a year. Hated the thought of corporate work again. Always wanted to be a game developer working on a dream game. Denied the 90k job for 40k, working on a game I love.

Now, I’m enjoying work. I work from home. I skip days I don’t feel up for work. I spend time with my newborn son. I get to handle things when I want to handle them. I am free. And to my surprise, I have found more joy in the small things having less money.

I want to finalize this comment with a fact. If it was not for my faith in Gods power, I would have caved to worry and fear. And if it was not for the words written in Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, I would not have faith.

If you cave to fear, you need to understand more about the reality of God. And if you are a star wars fan. You need to understand that God is the force. And the force is real.

May the force be with you.

@lquey
I am not motivated enough to not care what people think. I have to care what people think because I don’t want to be homeless. Truly. It’s not only the image. It’s the pain and the smell.

@michaelhobbs8935
I agree with so much in this video, except for the part about people who are afraid and communicate their fear for you not being true friends. I completely agree that you shouldn’t let fear stop you doing things, but if someone cares enough about you to be afraid and worry on your behalf, there is something quite nice there. So, rather than cutting them out and saying they’re not a friend, it may be better to address and calm their fears. Fear is one of the most basic animal instincts. So, I believe that rather than try to deny it or battle it, you should speak to it, understand it and appreciate it as a part of you that tries to keep you safe. It is from a good place, it is necessary sometimes, so it should be spoken to and appreciated like a friend who’s trying to protect you. It should be soothed rather than beaten into submission. It should not dictate all your actions, but it is trying to be helpful and it is a part of being human. So, I personally have found appreciating and placating it is a better way to deal with it and allowed me to move forward rather than trying to ignore or fight it.

@aa6757
There are different mind-made constructs to what it means to “live your dreams”. Generally speaking, for most people it comes down to how selfish do they want to be. I have seen men and woman completely abandon their children and responsibilities to “live their dreams”

@OldBrainPlasticity
Fear… Maybe. But I’ve been homeless, broke, and hungry before. I’ve had people pull knives on me for a taco. I’ll work more slowly on my dreams and keep a roof while I get there at a snails pace. Fear may be a hindrance, but blind naivety to reality is deadly.

@samathathomson9812
All this quitting your job stuff needs to recognize that the only alternative is essentially freelancing/working for yourself, and then you’re searching for work all day every day. It’s not for everyone. Some people assume that theyll have more free time working for themselves but the opposite can be true.

@milesvanrothow
If you have money, ideas and motivation, then it’s a good idea. If not you may be better off in the trade off of regular work for regular salary. Not everyone has the discipline to work for themselves.

@stevenvonsanho
Money is created to keep you from living your life and for you to work at creating value in someone else’s life

@Tyrell_Corp2019
Sometimes you can’t quit your day job. So you try to pull off your project in your spare time of a measly few hours here and there. But it’s not the same as ‘going into the tunnel for weeks.’ But still… you try.

@loveandparty4118
Well I still need to eat… the best solution I had was making creative work part-time while spending most of my time making money… I also left my old job so I don’t have to deal with inflated egos of management and quality assurance anymore… it’s amazing even if I earn less money.

@macrobaratta2920
Is not what your dreams are that you have to do, is how your dreams put together your life and make you grow and your dreams must be attached to a higher aim, is not any dream.

@getstakerized
You can try to achieve you dream… depending on what it is, it’s very difficult under the system we live in, because unless you are born into wealth, it’s going to take a good deal of time and energy to work a subsistence job to survive… or we could work together at creating a world that better enables everyone to realize their dreams!!

@ishenicole9987
Money and their Job… Live the life of your dreams.. Where do we get the finances from to make our dreams

@MonicaMartella-xq7wf
It would be refreshing if one of the privileged class would even mention that poverty might be a real obstacle to doing what we want.

@simonbeech7430
Other people might not care about you, but what about the companies when you can’t pay your financial debt to them? I am genuinely interested in an explanation of how someone with financial debt to, say, credit card companies or loans to banks could quit their job and survive.

@zachary4670
I’m afraid to live my dreams. Absolutely. But not because of my friends. I’m afraid to quit my day job because if I do, I’ll starve.

@chuckgibson3973

That’s very inspirational and all, but here on planet Earth, for every one person that has the experience of leaping off that cliff and taking flight into the life they’ve always dreamed of, there’s a HUNDRED bloody corpses of people with just as much commitment that took that leap… to crash and burn! Sounds lovely… hurts like hell if it doesn’t work out. Personal experience…

@Astrodesignlover
Main issue with quitting the day job is you then put yourself in a state of fight or flight as your worried about survival (if you don’t have enough savings) when we’re in this state our brains don’t work as efficiently so it’s maybe better to try and a find a day job that still leaves you with enough energy /time to pursue your dream on the side until it’s doing well enough to be your sole income.

@manysides2340
I agree with following dreams, but they do not always succeed. Bankruptcy is an example of a failed dream in some cases. Inspiration is nice, but if something fails, chock it up to the randomness of life. There are so many factors that influence outcome, and while starting is a major one, there are also others. To live a life spent selfishly, depending on those that are generous, is also a type of failure, in my opinion.

@reaperluke3518
I tried to “live out my dreams” and escape fixed-term jobs we young are given by buying a tobacco shop (I’m in Italy).
I was excited because I was told I could handle it alone, and while the hours were very long, I was told I could customize the hours a bit.

Turns out that the previous owners and their real estate agent scammed me.

Turns out the place was previously run by TWO sisters alternating themselves and sometimes working together. The hours turned out to be unmodifiable (tobacco shop licences in Italy are state-owned and the laws are strict).
I would have had to work 6/7 days, from 7 or 8 AM to 13 PM, and then from 15.30/16:00 PM to 20:00 PM, alone, without anyone as support. And it takes 40 minutes of driving to get to my house.
Taking an employee was a non-option: tobacco shops in Italy are always run by several family members because they enjoy a much more convenient taxation status, and a single member of the family can stay there to work alone at any time.
An unrelated employee CANNOT WORK WITHOUT THE LICENCE OWNER, which means I would have to stay in there for basically my entire existence.

Long story short, my depression comes back full force, with screaming, vomiting, heart rate through the roof, suicidal thoughts, all of this after a life of bullying, shitty short “love stories” and a dead father when I was 14.
I had to abandon the place, and my family lost 120.000 euros for this.
We still have enough money to go on comfortably, but damn, we were hit hard.

And now I’m back to square one, trying to lessen my depression, trying to finally get a fuc***ng stable job, trying not to give up.

TL;DR think about it very carefully if you want to be “your own boss”. It may turn out the best thing you’ve ever done, or become a hellish mousetrap.

@charleshurstreinvention3959
Let’s take another example as most want to quit their day jobs for the arts. Some of you out there (including this writer and vlogger) have the artist aspiration. You have been told by the very few who made it to believe in yourself and never give up. Well the simply fact is the arts are very different than any other profession. Because usually–someone else has to let you in. Now what I would tell you if you are 18 or 40 and feel that your destiny is in the arts? I would not tell you to just stay the “safe route” and give up on your dreams. I would tell you to pursue the artist aspiration smartly. Get another trade that you at least like. So the agents of industry never have you by the throat. You have to go to work anyway so you might as well have the job that pays well. I never went through the starving artist phase. I went through a starving student phase. So when I finally did pursue the artist endeavor I did it with a job I also like that contracts for 100K a year and four month vacations in Europe. That’s how you go through being a starving artist. You don’t starve at all. Hope this helps someone—Charles

@swingset1969
The world cannot function if we all follow this advice. If you’re happy, or found your dream, or do what you love, you’d better be super grateful that others didn’t….because they fix your world so that you can thrive in it.

bh5606
A person can identify hundreds of reasons not to do something, but he only needs one to do it and that reason is simply that he wants to do it but will have to deal with the consequences.

@maximhollandnederlandthene7640
It starts with parents who don’t support your talents and things you like 😕
Don’t quit your job, just take a extra day off from work to find and for filling your dreams.
Nobody should withhold you from that isn’t it !?

@senorwonderful
There are so many news stories and YouTube videos about the growing homeless problem in the world, people losing their jobs, people who can’t find affordable housing, people who have nothing saved for retirement, people who are in their 70s and have to work at Walmart because they can’t make ends meet on their Social Security checks, people who have crushing credit card and student loan debt, and people who can’t afford their medications, and then there are people like this guy who says, “Quit your job and live your dream.”

@viviensfilm3604
If you quit your job and have another source of income/savings/support from some one that provides you a decent life for at least 5 years then go ahead. But quitting job is not a practical choice for everyone. Many people begin to struggle financially or mentally within a year when they are not any closer to their dream.

@rochellemcryans2825
Here’s the best piece of advice for a starving artist use employment as a stepping stone to become self employed and to your own thing, focus on your passion but work a job to pay the bills and that’s it. You need to be fully committed and already making revenue before you resign from your job I would recommend a office or desk job and more like security because they have a lot of time on their hands that they can use to be productive. Booking a co star role isn’t enough to leave your day job unless you are booking 3-4 co star roles in a week rapidly and that’s $1000-$2000 per week and $5000-$6000 per month Last have your priorities right you can’t be an actor if your living in the street, or have no food in your refrigerator, the electric company turns off your lights, the gas company turns off your gas anf you can’t cook, the water people turns off your water and you can’t cook, clean, and was your butt.

@miltonwelch4177
Agree, but be careful in the same time
Lost my house in 2010 because I believed in my dream. Enjoyed it while it lasted.

@wbaiey0
Success is doing what other people do not want to do which is the same things you dont want to do. It takes courage to move mentally into a different state of mind imagination. Facts

@peterlewis3715
The internet seems full of people who advise us to just throw care to the wind. Sometimes you can really ruin yourself by having no fears and just thinking that you can follow your dreams and everything will just work out fine.

@imbra
What if my Day Job is my Dream? I’ve wanted to write software ever since I was a boy, before the internet. So that is what I do. I don’t have ‘a career’, I never wanted to be anyone’s boss, and I don’t work for myself. I work for a salary. Is something wrong with me?

@emmanuelgazal4269
I had some dreams to be a footballer & was good never came true also motivational speaking and modelling but I’ve tried but failed I think it’s going for it all and falling flat on your face that’s stops ppl & that’s why I don’t go all out anymore I’ve fallen on my face too much

@dg1019
The last of people influenced by the depression are on their 80’s now. There were good traits and some very bad ones learned from that era. I own a business with my 86 yo father and he built it thru hard work but has always struggled to grow it from extreme risk aversion. Both traits he picked up from having lived thru the depression as a kid.

@seekertruth72
work is solution to your problems rich or poor, healthy or sick, successful or failure, depressed or impressed any way just work it will keep you engaged and solve your problems

@qwerty6789x
I grew up on poverty and now got very good career in my currently field which pays very good but I’ve always wanted to be a musician but then again, i got 2 kids to raise. what’s holding me is the thought of my kid suffering the same experience living paycheck to paycheck or food stubs.

@SysterYster
I have come to the conclusion that I wanna write books. So I’m currently writing, but keeps working my day job in the meantime. When I get a book released, I think I can go down in time at my day job. Not quitting, but working less time, giving me more time for writing more and getting more books out faster in the future. I know my parents would call me crazy, but I think it’s the right thing for me. 🙂

@UniUni266

I watched this video a year ago and I quit my job to pursue building my own business. I left a very lucrative paying job in tech. Working for yourself is hard, working for someone else is hard but I now go to sleep at night feeling good about what I’m doing for myself. Don’t quit your job if you don’t have savings, don’t quit your job if you don’t have a plan. Don’t quit your job if you do not have validated highly sought marketable skills. Do it when you have these three things figured out.

@jw7575

Don’t simply quit, find a goal and take steps before you jump off a cliff onto your face!
I had a successful sales job for years and I hated it. I finally started taking steps to get a contractor license to hang Xmas lights. Then expanded to handyman services. I set my hours, pay, and deal with customers I like 👍
I don’t make as much money, but I can watch this video and walk my dog without some corporate jerk asking for my sales numbers whilst breathing down my neck!
I feel paid by giving myself more life worth living. I make the decisions and am completely responsible for my failures and successes. It’s freeing to be more in control of your day. Good luck, take steps, work hard for yourself! If you are successful then give back to the community and help others. Hire workers and treat them better. It will pay you back in multitude

@mollyerickson4897

The older you get, the harder it is to serve two masters. The pay becomes higher and harder to leave, and physical loss of energy is a reality. Doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Just be aware of some realities that it gets tougher, not easier as time goes on. I’ve lived through corporate jobs with good money and striking out on my own, only to find myself crying in the middle of my living room because I didn’t know how I’d pay the rent. It’s easy to take for granted the things we have when we fantasize about something better. There is a financial reality we have to account for. Get a plan. Live below your means. Figure out a way to do both as long as you need to…it doesn’t have to be “either/or” it can be “either/and.” At least for a period of time. Keep at it. What you want to do is get the horse running alongside the stagecoach before you take a leap. It may not be easy, but it’s possible. Good luck to all reading this…we are all listening to this message and reading comments because of the same dissatisfaction….

@pearlskakler4648:

As hard as our “dayjobs” can be, they’re far easier than living on the edge and possibly facing “failure” in pursuing our dreams. But failure is continuing down the easy path of a steady paycheck and letting your dreams die. I left a cushy job at a financial institution and took my dreams to NYC. I’m waiting tables now, after not working for 9 months, just acting and auditioning. Started a personal training business and have been doing pretty much what I want for the last 9 months.

@professoryuki

I actually listened to my intuition and followed my heart for my dreams and I’ve now been homeless. I think that a tenure professor like him with a partner saying this is different than someone who is actually already living in poverty to say this. If you don’t have shelter, you cannot work on your art and your dreams. It’s more about survival at this point.

@yellowhatDick:

I quit my day job. Had $50,000 to start my business. By year three went broke. I lost my girl friend, friends, and family dismissed me because of failure, though I never asked for money or support. I had to give away my dog because I couldn’t take proper care for it. I pressed into it anyways and became homeless living in my car. I pressed further and moved to Colorado for better summer weather and kept at it by utilizing public libraries. Still couldn’t make a solid steady income. Nearly died in the winter. Breaking point was being homeless, catching the flu, no one around to help or care; so, after I got better I took the last of my money, moved home, on my own accord, and got my job back. And, that’s where I am now. My family and friends came back into my life because I am back playing the same game of life that they are playing. However, the relationships only work because I have to put aside the knowledge that they only care for me when I meet their expectations. My mom says I got to learn a lot about myself, and had an adventure. This is her way of validating the coldness which she showed to me. My fiends have similar sentiments about leanring one’s limits and such. I think it is all just words one says who hasn’t faced limits and read false FB quotes too often. An abused wife, would probably rather never have been abused than get the opportunity to learn about her own limits and herself. The things I learned, I wish I hadn’t. Businesses fail. Some never reach their potential. I am not the same person I was years ago. I am now one who knows the cold. One who knows that the cold knows not of me. Some choices lead to death. I often wonder if a physical death would have been more humane. Good luck out there. I wish that no one has the same experiences as I did. The stars are beautiful but they might not think that you are too.

@iconno.1
The thing I never ever understand every time I hear quit your day job and follow your dreams is what if some of us trapped ourselves doing the right thing, bought a house, made responsibilities and then spend years earning to just about pay the mortgage, bills usually late, can’t afford to keep the fridge filled? So if we quit our jobs we’d be homeless. How do we then start our passions with no roof over our heads and no income? Please don’t then tell me sell the house because everyone needs a place to live and nowadays rent is just as high as increased interest rates on mortgages.
People always make it sound so easy. Sure if we can move back in with parents, had savings, money from a partner, wealthy parents etc but what if one is doing it alone?
If it really was that easy everyone would be following their dreams. I’ve been suppressed creatively for years but to slog it on social media is just too much to bare. I can’t imagine it would help with a constant supply of fine linen canvases, oil paints, sewing machine, fabrics. I also know I’m not understanding something though

@livingunderarockunderarock9963

Watch Mike Rowe’s video about not following your passion- the point is to question what kind of skills and talents you actually have before giving up everything to follow some dream.
I’m not here to dissuade anyone, but be realistic and be honest with yourself

@lids65
Take a risk but make it a calculated risk. Some fears are very real. In a country where there are no safety nets one has to tread very carefully in deciding to give up the security of employment. What the video doesn’t mention is that there are certain things you need to have before you can do something like this successfully. Self knowledge, self confidence, social and business contacts, the support of a partner, family or friends. Lest We Forget Timothy Leary, who ruined a generation of people by telling them to tune in and drop out. There is a very real possibility that if you haven’t done your homework, or if you are not psychologically ready to move into the new sphere of self employment, then you can end up teetering on the edge of the chasm. And in a life without financial back up it’s very easy to topple over the edge. The Streets of America are littered with people like this. Some of them will be able to save themselves many wont. The thing is one persons life and experiences does not dictate how the lives of others will play out. We are all individuals our skills and talents are different emotional financial and social situations are all different because we are unique individuals. The premise of the video is great. But when buying a dream, you must also consider the reality.

@banzy3
Seems you can make a good living from motivating others to follow their dreams… 🙂 Not everyone can do it, but it’s certainly possible. I’ve always suffered crippling anxiety from my earliest memories, but I ignored my university degree and reinvented myself in a completely different direction (not easy when parents have conditioned you to pursue an academic pathway). I left my office job in my mid-20’s, moved overseas to a country that spoke a different language. For nearly 20 years I haven’t had a boss, or a schedule, I don’t have to commute, and I pursue my passions… It’s not always plain sailing; it’s most definitely not about the money, but as long as I can meet my monthly expenses, I live a simple and purposeful life, raising a family, growing my own food, doing creative pursuits and living with minimal material interests. I could never go back from the life I have now without melancholy and a heavy heart.

@Trace7173:
It’s not fear, it’s reality and thinking rationally. I have nothing special to offer the world, very few people do. Last year after my mother died, I was unable to stay in our apartment and ended up living in my car..And I was working full time and I still do. Luckily, my ex-wife cosigned for me to get an apartment with my brother. I will never go back to being homeless and I plan on ending my life if I do

@lucasdeaver9192
I once quit my job to start my freelance business. I had a hard time getting clients and lived on very little for a long time. I got severely depressed and motivation became harder and harder. Eventually a corporate job came my way and I got a good salary and healthcare. I could afford to see a psychiatrist regularly and things got better. I”m NOT going to quit my day job. Not at age 57. NOPE!

@ngartola
I don’t mind 9-5 jobs. You can actually be happy working in a profession that you like, setting up your limits and do other things in life as well

@yoursubconscious
there is a fine line you must listen to BEFORE you quit.

1. Have goals or at least an understanding what is possible and put that in practice BEFORE you quit.
2. Make sure you have proper income to survive by paying the bills and taxes, otherwise you will lose more than you walked away from.

@lark6spur
Come on folks, really think over your situation in relation to your dreams. You can be employed and still have your dreams. I for one don’t want to live on the street and live in poverty simply because I have dreams inside my head. I have a standard of living!

@teriyakov
A lot of positive messages but if you have responsibilities ( kids/dependants or other obligations) you need to make sure the baseline is being taken care of ( rent/living costs/healthcare). So yes, absolutely chase your dreams but take care of the basic stuff first. Great video.

@trentdoyledoyletrent
People forget that life is also about family. With a stable job, you can have the beautiful family. You can avoid the trauma that happens when failing. A simple life can be a life of meaning to you and those who surround you. Sometimes the grass is greener on that other side.

@williamwalsh1533
I didn’t watch this video. I looked at the title and was compelled to comment. Pursue money. Once the money is acquired then you can finance your dreams. For example, if your dream is to make a film that will cost $50,000 instead of relying upon investors or borrowing money focus on earning a vast amount of money and then financing the film yourself. As an artist I am acutely aware on the difficulties of monetizing talent. So my advice is to make as money as you can then finance your dream. Dreams often don’t allow people to sustain themselves. Remember, all of these people that encourage you to pursue dreams are the few that became successful. For every Will Smith there are thousands of Joe Smiths. For every Quentin Tarantino there are thousands of talented filmmakers you will never know. Money is a necessity. Dreams are a luxury that successful people financially can afford.

@ax8433
Oh, just please, stop! You all want to believe you are someone special, and that you can achieve everything, but that’s not the case for everyone. I agree that with hard work and dedication, there is a good chunk of people who can achieve their goals, but even then that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are gonna be fulfilled or happy when they finally achieve them. There is so many evidence out there of people who achieved their dreams, and are still unhappy. They are the worst failures. And all of that because they forgot to live moment to moment, and enjoy life in the process. What truly matters in life, is up to you to define, but there are some things that are common for all of us. We strive for connection, acceptance and love. And when we are able to love ourselves, and then give that love to others around us, achieving your dreams in terms of career becomes just a sidequest, or even irrelevant. Not only that, but I am certain that in this comment section there is probably around 98% of you who will never come close to their dreams in careers and you are gonna think of yourselves as failures, when you didn’t realize that all this time you were buying this “quit your daily job” bullshit that’s all over the Internet, instead of focusing on self improvement, self love and love for others. Which would make you more fulfilled and fill your life with purpose like nothing else in life.

Another thing to add, there are certain people, that work pretty hard on their dreams, I even know some, and they still never achieve them. They just don’t have that “something”, talent or whatever and they choose wrong career to pursue. I’ve seen some terrible singers that were investing everything into their singing career, terrible youtubers who even after of 1000s of videos made don’t have 100 subscribers. Just because you are working hard on something, doesn’t guarantee you success. This is the ultimate truth.

And I am not trying to say that you should stay in your comfort zone – that would be the worst advice. Get out of it each day. But don’t buy into the shit, that just by quitting your job and following your passion, you are gonna instantly become happy or find happiness when you achieve goals. YES, try new thing in your life. And YES, take RISKS, but don’t forget to live in the meantime.

So in conclusion, instead of going through these type of videos each day and quoting every fucking thing the guy said, and thinking that is gonna make you achieve your dreams, maybe start working on the person you want to be. On loving yourself. On being a better friend, a better parent. Notice little things, the tree, the sunrise – feel alive. Enjoy every day, even when it’s hard. Enjoy that shitty job and make your colleague’s day by doing something for him / her. Focus on present. Don’t worry about the future too much.

All the best to all of you.

@ThatNiravGuy
I put my fear aside and earnestly followed my dream in 2003.

Because I followed my dream, I lost my savings, my insurance, my home, my income, my retirement, my marriage, and my health. I attempted suicide in 2010 because I lost everything following my dream…. which became a living nightmare.

“Follow your dreams! Have faith, work hard, and it will work!” they said!

I did…..

It’s 2020, I’m 60 years old, I’m broke, I’m in a dead-end job because I have bills to pay, I’m in debt, and I’ve still not recovered emotionally, physically, or mentally.

Following your dream works for billionaires, and for people who make money writing books and making YouTube videos about following your dream. It rarely works for real people with a mortgage and real bills to pay.

Following your dream isn’t all puppies, rainbows, and unicorns. If you aren’t literally willing to die and loose everything for your dream, don’t do it. You might literally loose everything or die in the process.

They don’t tell you that part because that part doesn’t help to sell books.

Somebody had to say it.

@NoeticInsight:
“Living” my dreams has left me flat broke and with no motivation. 7 years of film, won multiple awards for my work, created videos for some of the biggest names in the music industry…and I’m still here flat broke and ruined. Nobody ever tells you that even if you “make it”, there are different layers to “making it”. Industry success in the arts doesn’t = financial success. I should have just gotten a normal job…

@jasonhockma3750
It didn’t work out to pursue my dream, and the bills were still coming and the stress was getting worse and the dream just didn’t work out.

@DTM-Books:
Alright, I quit the lousy day job. Where is the money? When does it magically fall from the sky?

@anamisidro8543
If you quit you job without a well planned alternative you’ll end up miserable, poor with a lot of free time to regret it!

@n.p.mackenzie
This is much harder to do if you have a family and kids to look after. You are taking risks with their lives too as well as your own. Security is an illusion however taking the decision to sacrifice some stability for potential chaos should not be taken lightly and is certainly not an illusion.

I guarantee he had a very healthy amount of savings when he took these risks. Others certainly don’t have that and I think this is not talked about enough and can be hard to relate to if you literally have nothing to fall back on.

@johnnyeaton
For too many, overcoming fears is a privilege they cannot afford.

@michaels7821
Tried this and after five years I’m giving up my dream to be able to put food on the table.

@cameronpavelic500
Just a heads up, this guy had tenure as a professor making BANK before quitting his “day job” and following his dreams. Quitting your job when you have a safety net is a hell of a lot different then when you’re broke and supporting a family. Keep that in mind when you watch videos like this.

@Kennie2Times
I do respect and admire most of what this guy says, but he is also from an era where things required hard work< but the pay off was that you could have a wife and a child, and your wife could stay home and be a mom and a home maker, off a single income. Sadly times have changed, try living in the San Francisco Bay Area, where google and facebook have completely taken over and the rent for a one bedroom is as high as 4500$ a month, then preach the gospel of “Quit your day job to follow your passions/dreams”. This is NOT realistic at all unless you have a trust fund, rich parents/ partner or don’t mind living in a car on the streets!!! if I’m wrong, somebody PLEASE tell me how to do it!!!!
Another interesting aspect of this message is, this guy is a Dr., and the first thing he says in the description of the video is “BUY THE BOOK” So he clearly has multiple streams of income, which is also not something all of the viewers are fortunate enough to have. this makes you feel all warmies inside, so hear the grand ideas of “dreams can be a reality, and yes they can, but in a realistic world, you’ve gotta work like a sled dog , like at a full time job, and go to school or have a second job, and do your art or whatever your passion is on the side in between getting as little sleep as your body will allow, and then maybe you can achieve what he is speaking of!!!

@dan4345
Fear is telling your family…”looks like we’ll be living in a shelter because I quit my day job and we’re out of money”. Sounds like a great idea!

@johnwhite5306
Before you quit your job to pursue your dream make sure it is realistic. For example, if you are 5 foot 9 and your dream is to play in the NBA don’t quit your day job.

@jrobertlysaght
Red Flag: He glosses over that his daughter’s ability to keep attending an expensive college gets paid for Deus Ex Machina. I am genuinely curious to hear if he would have followed through with following his dream if his daughter had actually had to drop out of school and go flip burgers at McDonalds.

Telling someone who lives paycheck to paycheck, for minimum wage, the ‘just quit your job and chase your dreams’ when the rent is due, and you pay things on the final due date, THAT is sacrilege. Lying about it being plausible is just cruel.
Also, if your spouse doesn’t support you quitting your means to pay the bills, divorce them, wow, just no responsibility. What about your kids? “Sorry no dinner tonight, kids, but I’m not afraid to go for it!” This comes off as a spoiled individual, without any sense of responsibility.

@SineEyed

I get what he’s saying about finding out who your true friends are, but his suggestion to leave your friends/spouce behind if they aren’t 100% behind you on some life-altering endeavor is simply absurd. It’s short-sighted, selfish, and absolutely abhorrent as a piece of advice. Not all ideas are good ideas, so you should listen to what those who love you have to say. If they think what you wanna do is a really dumb idea and they lay out their reasons why, then you should give objective consideration to what they say. The truly dumb thing to do would be to cast them aside for not encouraging you to jump off a cliff, so to speak..

@MatthewSmith-vc8go
This is some nice feel good stuff, but is ultimately not helpful in the slightest.

“Follow your dreams”

Okay, how?
How do I not starve in the meanwhile.

Because I did. And I was poor, and the people that were supposed to be helping me (i.e. my agents) were hiding auditions from me and lying.

I’ve been writing for 20 with an endless string of rejection letters and not one publication.

I put my heart and soul into my dream, and it ultimately lead nowhere.

I work a decent day job now that pays well and I don’t hate it.

This stuff sounds nice until you try to put it into practice and realize that no one wants to hear your “new idea” unless your wealthy or famous.

I know I probably sound like a downer. The thing is, I really want to believe this guy, and the hundreds others just like him that all say the same thing.
But it’s not helpful. It’s not actionable.

Without a road map, some opportunities and some connections, a dream is just a dream.

@dumbcat
his is not the only advice on youtube. i knew a guy who was super positive about his chances to make money if he quit his job. he quit and for about 1 month he was still really jazzed. then something he did not expect happened; he began obsessing over how long his savings would last, even though he had already calculated he had enough to make it until his business was up and running. he just could not stop himself from recalculating how much longer his money would last. he would do this over and over multiple times per day. the fear his savings would run out before his business started making money eventually paralyzed him. he became like a dear in the headlights, unable to take action and unable to bring himself to purchase even the smallest things that might help him succeed. he spent most of his time doing these calculations and watching movies to help himself forget about things. so… remember there is other advice on youtube. the guy is this interview is not the only person in the world who ever started a business. a group of young entrepreneurs got together and had a meeting to decide what advice they would give to someone who wanted to quit their job. in the end they all decided that once you are consistently making $100 US per day with your side gig, then you can risk quitting your job. in other words, if you are in doubt about your chances… then it is okay to keep working at your job and somehow find the time and energy to work on your side hustle until you are making $100 a day. then quit your job. not easy to work a job and a side hustle too. but it is what it is

 

@Finezzato
I dare everyone including myself with a student, personal, mortgage loan to quit their day job to go chase butterflies

@fredericpayan6708
and when you’ve got no dreams, no plans, no passions then 9 to 5 is the best. At least I’m not stressed about thinking what I ought to do and about finding my passion

@wackypack09
I have no dreams. Just here to serve my term on prison-hell Earth, then go home.

@NoneYa-pg6dk
I cannot make the changes today, because I want to provide a certain lifestyle for my children. So, I’ll embrace this new job opportunity that is not much different from my current one, but will give me more opportunity. I’ll do my best the next nine years in corporate America. One day, I’ll be able to do what I love, photography/videography. I’ll be in my 40s. I still have time. Be patient and you’ll get there one day.

@ADifferentVibe
He has great points. For the record, I don’t quit my day job yet because it still takes money to live out my dreams as of now. But the point is, you CAN live out your dreams while not starving. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Make it work for yourself long term.

@teewhite7061

Good stuff, just a tidbit of advice though, forgo having any children before going for those dreams. My sister had 3 children before the age of 25 and she couldn’t just quit her boring job to pursue art (that boring jobs covered her childrens insurance); with that said now her kids are teens and she’s 42 and has started her photography and website business and enjoying it.

@a-maxcoin7549:
No matter how attractive your dream may look, part of living it out, is difficult, exhausting and disappointing. Be prepared to accept that.

@SandeepBecomer
1. What stands in people’s way is fair
2. Distinguish between friends and friendly associates
3. Those who fear will envy you for doing what they can’t
4. Go to the door if there’s no wolves then there’s no wolves
5. Understand yourself and listen to yourself
6. You have a dream then pursue it and deal with the possibility of it not happening
7. It is the fear of the things that didn’t happen yet that stops you
8. You need to realise that you can’t live your life based on what others think
9. Pursue your dreams with all your might
10. People change based on what they see which proves the worth of their opinions
11. Take your dream seriously despite the discouragement you may get even from the people closest to you
12. There’s always ups and downs
13. People say you only get one chance, you get as many chances as you can get
14. Give things time, work on a project till you feel complete and move to another one
15. You may torture yourself for your failures in the beginning but as you gain experience, keep working on the next project

@williesurvive1

Follow your heart…but take your brain with you.

I just turned 46, and began playing guitar at 14. By my mid-20s, I had given up my “dream” of making a living playing music. Not only did I realize that the music I was making would not be commercially viable enough to make a living from it, I also ultimately realized I didn’t want it bad enough. I’m fine with that, because the life of a pro musician is not for me. All that time spent away from my family, traveling and staying in hotels for such an insecure line of work…no thanks.

These days, my dream is simply to be free of the rat race. Free of office politics, stupid company processes, and others having power over my livelihood as I perform an unrewarding job that doesn’t pay well. I’ve been working on bringing my business idea to life; a business that I’ll be able to run from home, that will eventually allow me great leisure and freedom of time, and that should be quite lucrative based on its nature and target clientele. But I would be crazy to quit my job before I get my business off the ground.

@ssinistrari2257
It’s always the people leaving a good job that paid them lots of money and they have a savings to live off of for years that say: “Go ahead! Quit! Live your dream! If you never see that from some guy or gal making 30k a year, in debt, and can barely afford groceries.

I would love for these people to give advice on this with ZERO in your bank account without living on the street. Then I will be impressed.

@robertx1603
Do NOT quit your day job until you have actual income from your dream/hobby. Otherwise all you are doing is putting undue stress and fear on yourself, hence taking the joy out of it, during a period in which you are honing your skills.

@bdeckerva
Responsibility and self discipline also have rewards.

@magicaree
Sometimes a good friend tells you not to do it to protect you. Stability is also ok

@milodeescorpio3658
People, be careful with the decisions you make. Don’t just quit without having a well thought plan. If you just abandon ship without a life saver you are just going to drown.

@deansheridan
I have absolutely zero dreams. Never have had one. From an enlightenment point of view this is great because I’m in essence “desire-less” but yet I’ve always had this fear imposed upon me that i must have a dream or goal in life. Hence the desire to have a dream lol. Why do i have no dreams? Maybe because i already have everything I’ve ever wanted? Maybe so